Grandparents are important social contacts for children and, among other things, super-practical for parents. But all too often Grandma and Grandpa live far away or are otherwise unavailable. To be able to take advantage of this kinship relationship nevertheless, there is also the concept of borrowedomas (and of course -opas).
Grandparents to borrow can be a nice alternative to babysitting or even childminder. Fit people of the older generation agree to spend time with the children. You can find a Leihoma either in the neighborhood or via a babysitter. Whether the grandma on time costs something is different. There are both commercial and volunteer lending grandparents.
Why grandparents are so important
Why grandparents are so important for children, father joy already in the article “grandparents – as important for the child as ever”described. On the one hand, grandma and grandfather are important caregivers, because the children enjoy the patience and serenity of the older generation and of course the greater freedoms that the grandparents usually grant. Grandma does not have to struggle with difficult educational issues and later do not wash dirty clothes. Grandpa is happy to work with grandson or daughter in the garden or in the cellar – usually with a lot of time and no claim to perfection. By the way, older people also teach our children important lessons in life experience. Even if a lending granny can not or will not necessarily replace her grandmother – the advantages for the child and also for the grandmother remain the same and the parents also benefit: from a reliable babysitter and thus more freedom and relief in everyday life.
Who will be Leihoma or Leihopa?
The task of caring for children as a granny replacement is usually taken over by people of the older generation, who are already retired but still fit and full of energy. Loneliness or simply the desire to spend time with children is often the motivation. If a lending granny can be listed at one of the many placements, then the admission usually takes place after an intensive job interview – this gives parents more security that the loan granny is really reliable and suitable for this task. Frequently, however, the “job” of the Leihoma also results naturally in the neighborhood or in the circle of friends. If there is a need for care on the one hand and desire for this task on the other hand, such an agreement is quickly concluded.
Legal on the subject Leihoma
If you give your child into strange hands, there are many things to consider. Important among other things is the legal protection. If the Leihoma booked through a placement agency, a detailed contract is usually self-evident. In the private or voluntary environment, this is often neglected. In the process, social contributions are due, especially if the borrower is booked for a fee. Leihoma is considered an employee and must be reported to the mini-job center via the household check procedure. Partly, the paid money is then tax deductible again. Very important is a liability insurance, also by an accident insurance, the Leihoma should be insured in case of cases.
Which Leihoma is the right one?
In the selection of the Leihoma decides, above all, the sympathy. Keep in mind that the temporary grandmother will usually look after your child in your home environment. Of course, your child must also like the new grandma. The Leihoma or the Leihopa should also be physically and mentally fit. As for the general handling of the child, the same rules apply as for the grandparents or for the babysitter:
The Leihoma must be in parenting education according to the style of the parents (if there is compatibility, you should also knock in the preliminary conversation).
Smaller decisions should be made by Leihoma independently. When it comes to important things such as common trips by train or the like, then only with consultation of the parents.
Clashes in front of the child are taboo.
A sympathetic Leihoma sympathetic to all family members can be a valuable asset to the social environment. Often deep bonds are formed here, which complement the relationship to the biological grandparents.